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Double Sinks In The Master Bath, Part II

Christmas vacation

I recently had a vacation with the extended family.  We rented a big house during the off-season at a resort area — so cheap. My family took pity on me because I had been unwell lately and because I currently live in a home with only one bathroom that I share with my five kids, though one is away at school.

So even though I don’t have a “Master,” per se  (gag me),  they let me have one of the master bedrooms.  This  meant I had my very own bathroom.

 

Heaven on Earth

My very own bathroom. It was a thing of beauty.  It had a jacuzzi tub and a separate shower, a private water closet and — space! I could dance in my bathroom.  I briefly considered holding some sort of meeting there.  It had more floor space than my current family room has.  Plus, I didn’t have to make an announcement before I showered in case others had to use the bathroom first and I didn’t have to use the bathroom quickly before someone else took a shower.   For a week, I didn’t have to wade my way through acne products on the sink and teen clothes left on the floor.

My glorious bathroom also had double sinks.  I’ve discussed the double sink thing before, at Double Sinks in the Master Bath –Must We Have them, Really?  One of the problematic issues about them being standard in new construction is the fact that not everyone is coupled up.  The sinks are kind of a throw-back to the assumption that the heads of the households — the ones who deserve the best rooms — are always a couple.

Now, I loved having my own bathroom for a week.   I am not complaining.  It was an indulgence I’m sure many have on a daily basis, but for me?  I was living like a queen, albeit temporarily.  Still, I felt slightly silly in this bathroom.  It may have been the double sinks.  This was a bathroom built for two.  Every time I went to wash my hands or brush my teeth or wash my face, it reminded me, ever so subtly,  that I am single, occupying this space meant for a couple.   The suite also had a king sized bed, and I have to admit that, after all these years, I’m still sleeping on “my side of the bed.”

Whatever.

I took turns using first one sink and then the other so that neither one would feel left out.  (That’s my throw-back to having twins. Keep it equal as much as I can, in an effort to keep them out of therapy.) Inexplicably, I also locked the door to the water closet when I was in there.  I guess I didn’t want my non-existent ghost husband to walk in on me when nature called as he breezed in to shave over “his” sink.

From "The Others"  but was her husband real?

From “The Others” but was her husband real?

Oh wait, no one was going to use that other sink.

I was the master of my bathroom domain.

Elaine, from Seinfeld

Elaine, from Seinfeld

Oh well.   I loved having this huge bathroom all to myself for a vacation, but if I had actually purchased a home with double sinks that I’d have to look at day in and out? That would kind of piss me off. Contractors, realtors, HGTV  — take note.

The master bath also came with two sets of towels — I guess for my invisible ghost man.

I used those, too.

Just Me With . . . one shower, one bathtub, one toilet, TWO sinks and a bunch of towels — Just For Me. 

Double Sinks in the Mast Bath — Must We Have Them?  Really? 

An Argument Against the Open Floor Plan

Still Sleeping on My Side of the Bed

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My Love Affair with Dunkin’ Donuts’ Bathroom

I love Dunkin Donuts.   I know it’s just a chain of low-end Doughnut shops, but  I go to Dunkin Donuts every day.   The baked goods and food are not so great, but I do enjoy the coffee.    When I moved, downsized, left the marital home, whatever you want to call it — I began a relationship with Dunkin’ Donuts that was very personal.

When the old house sold, the new “old” house was still being remodeled.  “Remodeling” makes it sound so pretty and exciting — so HGTV-like.   It wasn’t.  It was more a combination of Hoarders, Clean House, DIY’s Renovation Realities and Jerry Springer.   Oh, it was an adventure, but it wasn’t pretty.   Some of the details of the renovation will be in other posts, but for this you need to know that the kitchen had already been demolished to the studs, see  Toilet or Kitchen Sink  —  Who Can Tell?  and the home’s only bathroom was under construction to allow for an over the tub shower and for my boy to be able to stand in front of the toilet — like a man.   The tub and sink had previously been removed, only the toilet remained, temporarily, which looked like this:  Did you notice the duct tape on the toilet seat?  Did ya?   Can you imagine the germ fest going on there?   Although at least one of the prior owners wasn’t even using the toilet regularly, see Piss Puke and Porn,  . . .  that toilet was more than nasty.  It was a bio-hazard. This picture was taken almost a year before I moved in, when the prior owners were still living there.   Yet when I moved in, the same duct tape was still on the toilet,   now covered in plaster dust and construction dirt which had stuck to the urine stains on the commode like a weird kind of sand art.  Ew!!

We moved into this mess –  in Summer — and it was hot.  Wait for it . . . we moved into a true

. . . wait for it. . .  hot mess!

But at least we had a toilet to flush, assuming we could use it without touching it.    I kept a bottle of hand sanitizer on a bucket in the “bathroom.”  This held us over until we could use the hose — outside.    Oh yes, and I forgot to mention that since the bathroom ceiling and roof were being raised, there was no overhead light.  A desk lamp plugged into the one working outlet gave us some light — because you  need to see in order to use a toilet without touching it.  You need to see — but not too much, not too much, not in that house.   We were seriously roughing it.

Two days after we moved in the disgusting toilet was removed.  I was slightly relieved, not realizing that a simple plumbing fixture could actually scare me so much.    But this left us with no indoor plumbing at all.   Huh.   But when the toilet was taken outside and I saw it in the light of day?   Well, no indoor plumbing became suddenly acceptable, preferable, actually.

Still, I wasn’t alone.   I do have five children.    One kid was thankfully going on vacation with another family for a week.  That left four.  Four kids with nowhere to wash themselves, wash clothes or prepare food.    And the four kids left were girls, so going behind a tree — not so easy.

I schlepped the girls to and from Grandma and Grandpa’s house, along with our laundry.  But my elderly parents  also have only one bathroom as well and were quite distraught over our living conditions.   They were distraught?  Imagine how I felt.    I had to downplay the situation to keep my parents (who are Olympic level worriers) and my kids calm.    I pretended this was not that big a deal.  I deserve an Academy Award and a Golden Globe. I don’t want a SAG award, because I can’t get over the sound of that . . . but I digress.

Of course the bathroom construction was behind, though I was given reassurances to the contrary.   And, let’s just say my funds were not liquid at the moment, which severely limited my options. (This may be subject of another post.)

Our “Bathroom,” mid-construction

While the kids were at the grandparents or other activities (which I kept them in, so as to maintain normalcy and give them a place to go — literally — ha!) I stayed and worked at the house.   Professionals were doing the bathroom but I needed to be around to supervise, and continue my round the clock cleaning and painting, see That Hoarder’s Smell, and also try to organize our belongings —which were stored in stacks of boxes that could not yet be unpacked.  Of course, there was no need to unpack the kitchen because, well, we didn’t have one.   In addition, the house was not yet secure — broken locks and doors — someone needed to be around.

My morning routine was as follows:

I would get up, roll into my clothes or keep on whatever I’d slept in (because so very few of my clothes were accessible to me) and head to Dunkin Donuts.

Madonna in Desperately Seeking Susan

Walking in quickly and giving the very hip  “up” nod to the workers, who knew me as a regular, I would head directly to the bathroom where, in addition to the normal thing to do, I would wash my face, dry it with a paper towel, grab the toothbrush and paste stashed in my purse, and brush my teeth.  When I emerged my coffee was ready for me.   The largely Pakistani staff expected me, remembered my order, and never gave me a hard time about my frequent and prolonged bathroom visits — even when I had the kids with me and we did it as a group, waiting our turn, usually at night, which brings me to—

The night-time routine:

Okay, kids we need to go and use the bathroom for the last time before bed.  Get in the car.

And we went to . . .  Dunkin’ Donuts.  The folks there would often give us free doughnuts, too!  Plus I made friends with one worker even though there was a huge language barrier and I later helped her with a very personal  issue — again something for another post.

I almost forgot that at one point there was a “Potty in the Basement” provided by the plumbers  — really it was like  an adult-sized training potty, except with chemicals.   Yeah, that didn’t work too well either, partly because there was no light down there in the oil stained, crumbling stone basement, and partly because the contents of that potty needed to be dumped–  not after every use because of the chemicals, but regularly.   This meant carrying it up broken basement stairs, through the house and outside (walking a plank which extended from the  back door four feet down to the ground, no deck or stairs yet) and then dumping it into the sewer line.

That potty overflowed once in the house.  Ew. I just shuddered a little, thinking about it.  Ew.

Damn, I’ve been through some shit, literally, shit  . . .  but I digress . . .  and this post is getting long.

Even Gabrielle on  “Desperate Housewives” has welcomed a Port-A-Potty when plumbing failed.

Realizing the bathroom remodel was going to take longer than expected, and when I finally had funds available (back child support was finally paid, on the very last day listed on the court order), I arranged for a port-a-potty to be installed in the back yard.   After all, it was a construction site.

Oh the Port-A-Potty — it gave us another round of adventures . . . since it was Summer and my children were and are very afraid of bugs and the dark . . .

Anyway, this is how my love affair with Dunkin’ Donuts happened, it wasn’t just about the coffee.

Just Me With . . . a fully functional bathroom  — now — though  I still enjoy my morning coffee from my friends at Dunkin’ Donuts. 

“Time to make the . . . Doughnuts?”

See, “She Asked For My Help”  for the issue with my Pakistani friend.

 

Sleeping Pills and Clogged Toilets: How to Unclog a Toilet While Under Sedation

I’m on a sleep regimen.  No messing around this time.   I have a lot of crap to deal with and I need to do it without being sleep deprived.   Sleep deprivation is a form of torture —  of mind control, right?   (We all saw the third Bourne, it can drive you to kill.)   I haven’t  slept on a regular basis in years.   This week I have been  making a point  of going to bed at a decent hour.  No television, no computer, no phone.   I’m also taking a very mild sleeping pill.   I have a low tolerance for sleeping pills,  however, they put me seriously out,  and I’m often groggy the next day, even  though I’ve allowed myself the  full eight hours of sleep recommended.   Consequently,  I take a low dose and break it in half.  Still, two nights ago, it didn’t work well.  I had trouble falling asleep with the half pill.   So last night, I figured I’d take a whole low-dose pill.

All of my night-time routine work was done, i.e. dishwasher was running, instrument had been played, kids were in their rooms, dogs had been out and were back in.   It was all good.  Sleeping pill taken.   Then,

“MOM!!!!!”

“What?!!!!!!!!!”  (I’d like to say I said, “Yes, Sweetie,” but I don’t think that was the case.)

“I CLOGGED THE TOILET!!!!!”

Swearing in my head commences.   We’d just had a bad experience with this about a month ago, hereinafter known as “The Last Clogging Incident.”   It was not pretty.

You should know that I hate plungers.   I hadn’t bought  one for this  new old house (except for the first few days, we didn’t have a working toilet here anyway in so it was unnecessary . . .  but I digress).    I hate plungers  because although they serve a useful purpose,  I despise cleaning them afterward.  It’s just one of my things.  My usual method of unclogging is to pour water down the toilet, quickly, to “flush” out the obstruction.   Often this must be done multiple times, but it works, it’s less messy and less smelly.     During The Last Clogging Incident,  however, it did not work.  There was no plunger in the house and it was after midnight.  Suffice it to say, I have a plunger now.

Back to last night,  the hour wasn’t as late as The Last Clogging Incident, and I now own a plunger,   BUT I HAD TAKEN A WHOLE SLEEPING PILL!!!!     If I had a strong reaction to it, I would be a stumbling idiot in a few minutes.   If not, and I simply attempted to override it, I would be cursed with a blinding headache.   Plus, two kids had to use the bathroom.   The “clog-her” was content in her bed, reading on her Kindle.    grrrr    Still, I had one on deck and one in the hole.   The drug would soon take effect, and  I, too,  had to go to the bathroom.   (As a result of prior medical/emotional issues, if I don’t go to the bathroom right away when nature calls, I become nauseated).   Oh, did I mention we only have one bathroom in a house with 5 girl-type people and one boy?

It was a race against time.   But since The Last Clogging Incident — when we ran out to a convenience store to use the bathroom just to buy time for me to figure out what to do and stave off my nausea — I had gained some knowledge.   It is amazing what a simple Google search will yield.    I had searched then for  “How to unclog a toilet without a plunger.”   I found the following.   I do not claim ownership, authorship, or creative input.    In short, I did not invent this method, but I pass it on.

Squeeze liquid dish detergent into the toilet.

Boil water.

Wait.

Slowly pour boiling water into toilet.

Wait.

Repeat.

The theory is that the soap lubricates the mass (ew) allowing it to pass more quickly and the boiling water breaks it up.  All of this is safe for your commode — unlike using chemicals (which neither I nor the convenience store had anyway).

Last night  I chose to use a variation.   Liquid soap, hot, but not boiling water.   I couldn’t wait for the boil, wanted to avoid the plunger.  After a while — it worked.   Two kids used the bathroom (before me, of course, I ignored the  airline face mask on the adult first mantra).

After the second kid used it,

“MOM!!!!! THE TOILET’S CLOGGED AGAIN!!!!!”    (The cursing in my head resumed also.)   Time was not on my side, I was already feeling woozy and nauseated.

This time I got the plunger, the soap,  and hot water (still couldn’t wait for boil).   It took some work.   (Note to self:  add more fruit to kids’ diets).  One kid helped (as I stood back, letting the wall hold me up, pinching my nose closed).  But this was the kid responsible for The Last Clogging Incident, so I felt no compassion.

“It smells, Mommy.”

“I know.”

But finally,  the sound of a flushing toilet.  Twice for good luck.  Thrice — well, for me.   The plunger was rinsed, wrapped in a plastic trash bag and still sits on my back deck.   I went to bed.   I slept.   I feel like crap today.   I will only take a half a sleeping pill tonight.   Still, I am triumphant.   I am strong.  I am invincible, I am . . .

Just Me With . . .  a plunger on my porch and a half of a sleeping pill with my name on it.